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hedwards: It takes practice. The problem with writing is that, unlike most other activities, it's more than just learning to use the hand, you also have to learn how to write. Writing lefty versus righty isn't the same and the same hand positions aren't going to work unless you also decide to switch from right to left righting.

I can write with both hands with reasonable penmanship, but I lack the patience to work on it frequently enough to make it efficient.

Other than that, you have to start with gross movements. Things like throwing and catching, those are the ones you develop first with the dominant hand, so they should be the ones you start with on the non-dominant hand. It takes time to develop an intuitive sense that you can use the other hand for the task without having to think about it.
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Wishbone: I'm kind of a weird aberration when it comes to "handedness". I'm left-handed, but there are a lot of things I do like right-handed people. Nobody ever forced me to, that's just how it works best for me.

Things I do left-handed:
Write
Play badminton
Play softball (catch with right hand, throw with left)
Strength (my left hand/arm is stronger than my right)
Masturbate (well, why deny it)
Some tools (saws and hammers, left only. Wrenches and screwdrivers I can use with either hand)

Things I do right-handed:
Mouse+keyboard
Knife and fork
Play the guitar

I don't understand how right-handed people can play right-handed guitar. Or other left-handed people play left-handed guitar. When learning to play the guitar, by far the hardest part, and the one requiring the most strength, coordination and dexterity in the fingers, is working the fretboard. I naturally want to use the one of my hands with the most strength, coordination and dexterity for that, which is naturally the left one, since I am left-handed. Why most people do it the other way around is beyond me. I'm not alone in this either. I've met right-handed people who played the guitar left-handed for the exact same reason.
Sounds like you're mixed-handed. The leftie, rightie and ambidextrous model that people think of is a tad constrained, there are folks who naturally have a hand that they use for one task or another that doesn't match with the other categories.

This goes beyond the drinks are held in the left hand rule.
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hedwards: ...
We are just getting older hedwards, and, I believe, people (in general) are becoming less social overall with their near-dependence on electronic texting for more and more daily socialization. Perhaps many are becoming more insular more isolated. People they don't know, they feel like they can treat in any manner they wish, no repercussions, no empathy. Just wait till the next generation, right now will be the good old days. Enjoy it hedwards, enjoy it. ;)
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KOCollins: We are just getting older hedwards, and, I believe, people (in general) are becoming less social overall with their near-dependence on electronic texting for more and more daily socialization. Perhaps many are becoming more insular more isolated. People they don't know, they feel like they can treat in any manner they wish, no repercussions, no empathy. Just wait till the next generation, right now will be the good old days. Enjoy it hedwards, enjoy it. ;)
But, I own a motorcycle, I was supposed to die before I grew old.

Also, those damn kids are always on my lawn. Don't they realize how expensive that hydroseed stuff is?
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hedwards: But, I own a motorcycle, I was supposed to die before I grew old.

Also, those damn kids are always on my lawn. Don't they realize how expensive that hydroseed stuff is?
I would respond to this, but I have lost the ability to focus on sentence structure. Also I need to pee again.
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YaTEdiGo: Please guys, and girls, navigate with both hands on the computer, one in the keyboard, and one in the mouse, to maintan the forum classy.
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Emob78: I have no problem with occasionally turning on snobby condescension mode, but if you do, please have spellchecker on. Makes things so much more consistent. No one likes a backseat driver who has had his license revoked.
I was writing with just one hand... you know?
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hedwards: It takes practice. The problem with writing is that, unlike most other activities, it's more than just learning to use the hand, you also have to learn how to write. Writing lefty versus righty isn't the same and the same hand positions aren't going to work unless you also decide to switch from right to left righting.

I can write with both hands with reasonable penmanship, but I lack the patience to work on it frequently enough to make it efficient.

Other than that, you have to start with gross movements. Things like throwing and catching, those are the ones you develop first with the dominant hand, so they should be the ones you start with on the non-dominant hand. It takes time to develop an intuitive sense that you can use the other hand for the task without having to think about it.
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Wishbone: I'm kind of a weird aberration when it comes to "handedness". I'm left-handed, but there are a lot of things I do like right-handed people. Nobody ever forced me to, that's just how it works best for me.

Things I do left-handed:
Write
Play badminton
Play softball (catch with right hand, throw with left)
Strength (my left hand/arm is stronger than my right)
Masturbate (well, why deny it)
Some tools (saws and hammers, left only. Wrenches and screwdrivers I can use with either hand)

Things I do right-handed:
Mouse+keyboard
Knife and fork
Play the guitar

I don't understand how right-handed people can play right-handed guitar. Or other left-handed people play left-handed guitar. When learning to play the guitar, by far the hardest part, and the one requiring the most strength, coordination and dexterity in the fingers, is working the fretboard. I naturally want to use the one of my hands with the most strength, coordination and dexterity for that, which is naturally the left one, since I am left-handed. Why most people do it the other way around is beyond me. I'm not alone in this either. I've met right-handed people who played the guitar left-handed for the exact same reason.
I actually have concluded that handedness isn't binary. I write with my right hand (I actually *can* write legibly with my left, but it is slow and the writing is bigger), but some things I like to do with my left, like stirring, for example.

Interestingly, my burn was on a finger on my left hand, so I must have been holding the soldering iron with that hand (and the solder with my right) at the time. I think that setup might feel better, actually, provided I don't accidentally burn my finger, of course.

(It's worth noting that sex, gender, and sexual orientation are all not strictly binary either.)
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Pax11: I have to disagree with you on this one, as someone who is indeed "ex-gay." You cannot simply post a survey from an "Ex-Gay Survivor's" webpage and act like that is the be-all and end-all to the many convolutions. ... snip
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Brasas: Both sides in this topic are hugely guilty of cherry picking - or properly stated, of confirmation bias. Studies based on selection bias, are suspect for obvious reasons to anyone that knows anything about scientific methodology: non representative samples.

Of course, your own experience is not universal proof, it just disproves the opposite generalization - falsifies would be the term used in epistemology.

The fundamental problem at the meta level goes back to the word class, and how it relates with classy behavior. Most of the individuals in the opposing groups are purposefully choosing to throw away "classy" in order to reinforce how distinct their class is from the others.

Is anyone actually interested in going back to that cooler level of discussion? Or are we too much into the entropic descent towards the object level arguments?

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I wholeheartedly agree with you. But I never stated or even implied my experience was or should be considered universal. Everyone who hears my story somehow goes down that road, but I never have. My life doesn't mean everyone can change; it doesn't mean everyone should or has to. I was simply replying to, as you called it, the opposite generalization. And the post I replied to did state an opposite generalization.

I'm not intent on arguing about this ad nauseum. I was simply presenting a different experience. Folks can have at the rest of it. I'm comfortable in my life and that is all that I was trying to convey. I do tire of the "no one can change this" mantra, and wanted to give a different perspective, is all.

Pax
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dtgreene: First of all, age should not be a consideration when determining whether to respect someone's identity; this applies to both sexual orientation and gender identity (as well as other aspects like religion).

Second, ex-gay *does not work*. See
http://www.beyondexgay.com/survey/results/q1.html

Also, if you're gay, getting into a straight relationship is not going to end well. For example, consider Tchaikovsky, who separated from his wife only six months after the marriage.
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Antonina_Miliukova
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Gnostic: Why age does not count?

If age does not count then 5 year old kids can drink alcohol, smoke, watch prom, drive, have consensual sex with a 50 year old and the police should not jail the 50 year old.

And you are saying no gay ever regret their sexual orientation and change back? All straight can only be gay and not otherwise or even hetero. No one ever got tired and want to change back?

Of course a gay may not end well with a straight relationship. But what that is going to do with gay who regretted their sexual orientation?

Do you want to dismiss the minority of LGBT who regretted their sexual orientation while campaigning that the LGBT should not be dismissed just because they are the minority? Also, we do not know the actual numbers of LGBT who regretted it is really the minority. Now sure how many people would publicly say it like Pax11.

If adults would regret it, children who have immature world view would fluctuate even more.
Of course extremist conversion efforts are silly, but there are a number of LGBT who would go back. The ideal case would be these people change back their sexual orientation naturally. Or seek help in conversion program not tied to RELIGION and have actual scientific and physiology grounds.

If you want my support to abolish extremist conversion efforts, you have it.
If you want my support to lock down every kid with the slightest fantasy they are the opposite sex to be forever the opposite sex. NO
If you want my support to abolish reasonable conversion efforts. NO
I do want to point out, just for the record, I went through no conversion therapy (extreme or otherwise) and I think it's ridiculous to put anyone through that.

That's all!

Pax
Post edited September 30, 2015 by Pax11
back in the day before mass produced cheap chinese stuff, everything had a lot more value. shit was rarer. manufacturing did not have as much scale. factories didn't make thousands of something in a day. that combined with less people to buy stuff meant that two versions of everything made no sense. combine that with harder culture plus less understanding of the human body and you have a situation where it made a ton of sense to force people to be right handed.
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Pax11: I wholeheartedly agree with you. But I never stated or even implied my experience was or should be considered universal. Everyone who hears my story somehow goes down that road, but I never have. My life doesn't mean everyone can change; it doesn't mean everyone should or has to. I was simply replying to, as you called it, the opposite generalization. And the post I replied to did state an opposite generalization.
I think there are actually two different topics here:

1. Can sexual orientation change?
2. Can anyone change her sexual orientation?

These are two different questions, and I believe the answers are not the same. In other words, sexual orientation can change (though I believe that isn't that common), but it can't be changed, if you know what I mean.
The only thing I'll add in respect to therapy, I question the value of any therapy when the subject doesn't want that change. It's a different thing to have a person who wants to change and needs help and forcing someone unwillingly to go through it. I doubt the latter would have good success rates.
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RWarehall: The only thing I'll add in respect to therapy, I question the value of any therapy when the subject doesn't want that change. It's a different thing to have a person who wants to change and needs help and forcing someone unwillingly to go through it. I doubt the latter would have good success rates.
The problem is that a lot of people do want that change. Now, the reasons for that may not be great, but there are a lot of very lonely gay men out there that don't fit in because they're going to hell.

Obviously, the correct solution is to fix society, not the individual that isn't broken in the first place. But there are plenty of folks that do. Even for those of us that accept our orientation, it does put us behind our peers. One of the reasons I'm still single is that dealing with the sexual orientation issues pushed me back a couple years and now it's getting damn hard to find decent women to date.
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Pax11: I wholeheartedly agree with you. But I never stated or even implied my experience was or should be considered universal. Everyone who hears my story somehow goes down that road, but I never have. My life doesn't mean everyone can change; it doesn't mean everyone should or has to. I was simply replying to, as you called it, the opposite generalization. And the post I replied to did state an opposite generalization.
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dtgreene: I think there are actually two different topics here:

1. Can sexual orientation change?
2. Can anyone change her sexual orientation?

These are two different questions, and I believe the answers are not the same. In other words, sexual orientation can change (though I believe that isn't that common), but it can't be changed, if you know what I mean.
It depends what you mean by change and sexual orientation. Denial is a pretty massive force and the side effects don't always match the area that you're denying.
Post edited September 30, 2015 by hedwards
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hedwards: The problem is that a lot of people do want that change. Now, the reasons for that may not be great, but there are a lot of very lonely gay men out there that don't fit in because they're going to hell.
Correction: They don't fit in because they *believe* they're going to hell. There is a big difference between someone believing something and it actually being true.
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Pax11: snip
Thanks Pax, and sorry if you thought I was implying you were attributing universality. I understood you were specifically falsifying the other generalization of immutability, not trying to make your experience into the universal one.

I actually think your experience IS closer to the universal truth, that all humans have a fluid sexuality, some more fluid than others, and the initial point where the sexuality points to on the imaginary axis is pretty much arbitrary as far as I'm concerned.

I mean, generic sexuality is one thing, but love and attraction for specific individuals is what really matters and sometimes it breaks away from the preferences one believes to have. :) We humans are really interesting animals aren't we? ;)
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Pax11: snip
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Brasas: Thanks Pax, and sorry if you thought I was implying you were attributing universality. I understood you were specifically falsifying the other generalization of immutability, not trying to make your experience into the universal one.

I actually think your experience IS closer to the universal truth, that all humans have a fluid sexuality, some more fluid than others, and the initial point where the sexuality points to on the imaginary axis is pretty much arbitrary as far as I'm concerned.

I mean, generic sexuality is one thing, but love and attraction for specific individuals is what really matters and sometimes it breaks away from the preferences one believes to have. :) We humans are really interesting animals aren't we? ;)
:)

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Gnostic: Why age does not count?

If age does not count then 5 year old kids can drink alcohol, smoke, watch prom, drive, have consensual sex with a 50 year old and the police should not jail the 50 year old.

And you are saying no gay ever regret their sexual orientation and change back? All straight can only be gay and not otherwise or even hetero. No one ever got tired and want to change back?

Of course a gay may not end well with a straight relationship. But what that is going to do with gay who regretted their sexual orientation?

Do you want to dismiss the minority of LGBT who regretted their sexual orientation while campaigning that the LGBT should not be dismissed just because they are the minority? Also, we do not know the actual numbers of LGBT who regretted it is really the minority. Now sure how many people would publicly say it like Pax11.

If adults would regret it, children who have immature world view would fluctuate even more.
Of course extremist conversion efforts are silly, but there are a number of LGBT who would go back. The ideal case would be these people change back their sexual orientation naturally. Or seek help in conversion program not tied to RELIGION and have actual scientific and physiology grounds.

If you want my support to abolish extremist conversion efforts, you have it.
If you want my support to lock down every kid with the slightest fantasy they are the opposite sex to be forever the opposite sex. NO
If you want my support to abolish reasonable conversion efforts. NO
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Pax11: I do want to point out, just for the record, I went through no conversion therapy (extreme or otherwise) and I think it's ridiculous to put anyone through that.

That's all!

Pax
I already agree that the best is to let people change back their orientation naturally.

I don't think it is good to reject all kind of therapy. There are therapy that foster strength in the individual to find whatever works best instead of an overriding goal to convert.
Look at their case studies, Even the Lesbian can find peace with her straight husband and both of them are confident in their marriage despite her sexual preference.

Do you think these kind of therapy should be abolished?
Post edited October 01, 2015 by Gnostic