VWood: O.K. Here's the thing.
I have noticed, even before the whole Cyberpunk debacle, that people have become increasingly negative on the forums and reviews section.
The truth is that we can only get someone to do something by making them want to do it. Any person hungers for appreciation like their body hungers for food, and without it their spirit will die as surely as their body would if they were never fed.
We tend to think that criticism will cause the other party to do what we want. However, human psychology does not function in that way. It is always the person and team that receives the most praise and appreciation that improves the most and becomes the most capable. Those who receive kindness are also far more likely to bestow kindness on others.
This truth is found in all the psychology texts: We cannot change, by criticism, the nature or abilities of another person, and it only makes the criticized party more defensive and resentful. Ultimately, the reason why we criticize is simply to vent emotion and feel good for a moment, in spite of the other person.
Criticism and condemnation tend to impair people's usefulness further, and will ultimately cause their resignation. If you want someone to fail then keep condemning and criticizing them, no human mind is immune to this, no matter how resilient, it is only a matter of time.
So now I have given you a secret weapon to destroy any person or company: criticize them. But remember that people's failure doesn't always manifest in the way we want. Their failure usually ends up manifesting as them ceasing to give us what we want.
So, if you actually want people to give you what you want, then I have another tool by which you may cause them to give you what you want: Satisfy their hunger for appreciation.
Never offer empty flattery, it is counterfeit and selfish. Instead, give heartfelt appreciation.
Give appreciation for every little thing. Seek diligently for any reason to praise, appreciate or encourage someone. Even if they ask for criticism, find something truthful about them which you can praise instead.
We should consider the other person's position and realize that we may have been the same under similar circumstances. Therefore, even if someone falters, find a way to praise them for the way they handled the situation.
Remember, a person's character is determined by the thing which gives them a feeling of importance.
In essence, the direction in which we speak of someone is the direction in which they move.
You already have an eagerness to engage on this platform, as evidenced by the fact that you post here, and also the power to influence them that read your comments.
Do the things which I have mentioned and you will arouse an enthusiasm in the other person that you did not think existed before. And they will give you what you want.
