langurmonkey: Exactly, a lot of what some people have said are not in line with statistics. And I'm going to find my friend sooner or later. I just want to save money because I'm not rich but I will spend money if I have to. It is horrible that bad things happen to some people after they are found but it is horrible that those few incidents have infected people with unnecessary fear that gets in the way of the happiness of other people. There are also plenty of things people can do if they have dangerous people in their past to prevent being a victim. Not allowing people to have information on other people is not the answer. Some of you guys, also take movies too seriously. Movies were made to be interesting. Nobody wants to watch a movie about someone searching for someone. just to have that someone back in his life. No, they rather watch a movie about a psycho stalker who wants to hurt his ex girlfriend. This reminds me of the fact that most people can't separate fiction from reality after watching movies. After people saw Jaws, for the first time, less people went to the beaches for some time.
What you're ignoring is the fact that us taking a risk on behalf of somebody else isn't OK. We don't know you, you've only registered here this month, we don't know the person you're trying to get into contact with.
People made reasonable suggestion that you respect this friend's privacy and not have third parties reporting back the contact information without permission.
But, there's also the issue of you setting strangers onto your friend. How do you know that any of us can be trusted? Maybe the person that you give the information you do have to is a crazed madperson?
It's not just about how rare or common the risks are, it's also about you showing a lack of respect for the other person's right to decide whom to associate with.
